Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Still greasy...

My friend Heather makes some cogent responses to my last entry. I suggest a New Englander's predilection to ask, "where do you live?" is ultimately aiming to figure out the likelihood of social assimilation; people are feeling you out to see if and how you will interact with thier tribe. I agree with Heather that, "I will determine how you were raised, your probable religion, your value system, and your schooling all based on your answer to that question," but I believe that is normal. We probe potential relationship candidates all the time; we do it when we're flirting, when we're applying for a job, when we meet new people...we're looking for commonalities to provide a rapport to build on. In D.C., unfortunately, it's like they're giving you a quick scan to see if you're worth any more of their time. In New England, it's like they're throwing you into the fire to see what comes out, and the degree of acceptance is directly tied to your burns. In D.C., it's like they pass an unseen metal detector over you to see if there is anything they can get from you. If a little beep goes off, they stay. If not, they move on to the next pile of sand drinking a martini in the room. It's the difference between finding a short-timer or even a one-night-stand (there), and trolling for a hooker (here).

ick.

5 comments:

chewy said...

i have to agree with you. granted my interactions with people were very limited in DC but it's certainly got a completely different feel than boston. the distinct feeling that virtual strangers were sizing me up not b/c they were interested in being friends but more b/c they were looking for a firm spot to place their foot on their never ending quest to rise on the social ladder is enough to make anyone feel...well...greasy.

The Silver Fox said...

DC sucks bro. Come home already, to New England: where the weather is cold and so is our outward demeanor.

The Multicultural Spitfire said...

I stand firmly by my assertion that not everyone is a social climer or power monger in Washington, D.C.

chewy said...

well of course NOT everyone is. that'd be like saying that everyone from california bleaches their hair and has a plastic surgeon on retainer but there's something to be said for per capita ratios.

ally oops said...

Hey! This town would be awesome if it weren't for all the politicians.